Try not to kill harmless insects and spiders that come into your house. Show them mercy. I hope if you are ever in the wrong place at the wrong time that someone will do the same for you. Feel free to kill mosquitoes, wasps, and hornets, though. They are pure evil.
Romance does not need to include another person. You can have romance with nature. You can have romance with travel. You can have romance with a cup of coffee in a cafe. You can have romance within.
Learn to efficiently do the things you don’t want to do so that you can spend most of your time and energy on what you do want to do.